Month: April 2025

Reflection #103 (20th April 2025 at Essex Church / Kensington Unitarians)

As I hinted at the top of the service, Easter can be a tricky day for Unitarians, as each of us is likely to sit in a different relation to the Christian tradition. And the Easter story is challenging in a lot of different ways at once. In the mainstream churches there will be much more of a sense of having gone on a journey of preparation through Lent, and the build-up through Holy Week, giving a lot more time and space to linger over the story of Jesus’ downfall and suffering in worldly terms, before arriving at Easter Day and the sense of triumph that goes with the story of his resurrection.

Reflection #102 (6th April 2025 at Essex Church / Kensington Unitarians)

When I first started thinking about this theme as something we might want to explore in a service, I brought it up in conversation with a few friends, some of whom are religious types and others of whom are really not. At first, I was somewhat surprised to find that people seemed to struggle somewhat with the concept – what precisely does it mean, ‘The Sacred’? – but then as I tried to share my own sense of the sacred I realised… it’s quite a slippery idea. Maybe I shouldn’t have been surprised, given that we often talk of sacred things as being ineffable, somehow beyond our human ability to express in words, too profound to speak of. Still, we try to find a way.

Reflection #101 (23rd March 2025 at Essex Church / Kensington Unitarians)

As I said at the top of the service, this past week has been ‘Neurodiversity Celebration Week’, and so this morning we’re exploring the premise that is simply stated by the autistic author Temple Grandin in words that are on the front of your order of service: ‘The world needs all kinds of minds.’

Part of the impetus behind tackling this theme today was a conversation I had with a friend recently – and I should probably say upfront that this is going to be perhaps a more personal reflection than usual – I am hoping it will be useful for me to share a little of my own first-hand experience on this occasion. So I was speaking to my friend – a new friend, someone I haven’t known very long – and I mentioned in passing that I am autistic. And he replied ‘you don’t seem autistic, if you don’t mind me saying’.

Reflection #100 (2nd March 2025 at Essex Church / Kensington Unitarians)

As I said at the top of today’s service, our exploration today is around the need to nurture meaningful connections, in a world where many are lonely, alienated and disconnected. Even in this densely populated city – we must be getting on towards 10 million Londoners now –though we bump up against each other every day it’s still so easy to feel anonymous and isolated. And in theory we’re very connected in a virtual sense too, to the whole world, via the internet. But despite this, I suspect most of us would acknowledge that true connection isn’t always easy to find.

Reflection #99 (23rd February 2025 at Essex Church / Kensington Unitarians)

I want to start my reflection (and I should say though this is listed as a mini-reflection in the OOS it turned out to be not-so-mini after all) with an echo of those words from the Franciscan teacher Richard Rohr: ‘All great spirituality is about what we do with our pain… If we don’t find a way to transform our pain, we will always transmit it to those around us or turn it against ourselves… If your religion is not teaching you how to recognize, hold, and transform suffering, it is junk religion.’

Reflection #98 (9th February 2025 at Essex Church / Kensington Unitarians)

There’s a saying that used to be used a lot in Unitarian and Universalist churches, as a kind-of covenant, and it starts with the phrase: ‘Love is the doctrine of this church.’ And I don’t think it would be controversial to say that love is what we think we’re about as a community – it pops up on a regular basis in our hymns and prayers – it’s right at the centre of who we are and what we do (or at least what we aspire to do). But, strangely, we don’t often make it the particular focus of a service – possibly because it’s just too big a topic to get a handle on – or too slippery a concept.

Reflection #97 (14th January 2025 for OneLight Gathering at Essex Church)

Thanks for inviting me to join you tonight – from the moment when Alison invited me to share on Universal Themes there was one thought that I couldn’t get out of my mind – and I’m ever-so-slightly hesitant to share it as it perhaps seems a bit heavy but the fact that it’s been such an insistent thought feels like a sign that it’s what I’m meant to speak about tonight.

Reflection #96 (12th January 2025 at Essex Church / Kensington Unitarians)

On the front of this morning’s order of service there’s a picture of one of the greatest Olympic moments of my lifetime – that’s how I remember it, anyway, though I suppose it came along at a formative age for me – I was only eight years old when Torvill and Dean went to the Sarajevo Winter Olympics and performed their famous ice dancing routine to Ravel’s Bolero. Maybe if you didn’t grow up in Britain in the 80s this won’t mean as much to you – though Torvill and Dean are still somewhat revered in this country – I believe they’re now judges on ITV’s ‘Dancing on Ice’.

Mini-Reflection #95 (29th December 2024 at Essex Church / Kensington Unitarians)

Just a few thoughts from me on this business of making change in our lives – something that we can do any day, as we heard in one of the earlier readings, but it’s something which many of us particularly focus on at the turn of the calendar year, when New Year’s Resolutions come to mind. I want to preface my remarks by saying – this is one of those ‘both-and’ topics – it’s so often the case that I seem to be saying two apparently contradictory things at once when I stand up here. At least two! Sometimes more. There are two contrary messages that are both true, I reckon, but inevitably they’re in tension with each other: one is a message of self-acceptance, that you are good and worthy and loved just as you are; the other is a message of self-improvement, that there are always things we could pay attention to, do a bit of work on, to change our ways and change our life for the better (perhaps with the hope that any changes we make will have a positive impact on those around us and ripple outwards for the benefit of the wider world).

Mini-Reflection #94 (8th December 2024 at Essex Church / Kensington Unitarians)

I don’t know about you – but when I think about life and how I want to go about living it – my basic (really basic) starting point is that I want to be a good person and I want to live a good life. I know that might sound ridiculously basic but for all the sophisticated philosophising I might have tried to do over the years, for all that this basic intention comes up against the world’s troubles and complexities, that’s a significant part of the background music of my brain, a part that has always had some sort of influence on my life choices: I want to be good and do good. And I’m pretty confident that I’m not alone in this – it’s part of why you show up at church, right?